Why Change is Hard

(and How to Do The Thing Anyway)

We already talked about one reason previously:

Motivation is a feeling, meaning it will come and go just like any other feeling. 

However, another reason we can’t just rely on motivation is resistance

When we set a goal for ourselves, regardless of how “easy” or “small” or “simple” it is, our brain freaks out. 

Like whoa whoa, whoa, stop the show freak out.

You see, our brain has one job, one: to keep you alive

And since you’re alive reading this, whatever you did yesterday your brain will want to repeat. 

This is why change is so hard!! 

And, this is why we give up so fast

We have fluctuating feelings about change, and then our brain is trying to get us to do anything but the new, wonderful goal we want to do! 

This is exactly why I talk about SMALL changes so much. 

When you make small changes, your brain won’t create resistance as loudly and you can find consistency easier. 

And, to bring in the previous point, when you just show up anyway

despite not feeling motivated and 

despite your brain telling you it’s a terrible idea, 

you start to break down that internal resistance. 

Each time you show up is a signal to your brain that says:

This is safe for me

Which is really what your brain needs, just some encouragement. 

Eventually, as you become more consistent, your resistance will fade away and your new action will become your new normal. 

Then repeat with a new/different goal.

Change feels hard, but it doesn’t have to be.

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